About me:
I’m a forty three-year-old Ottawa woman currently in the middle of an extended midlife crisis. I blog about it and other things that pass through my head from time to time.
About this blog:
This blog is semi-anonymous. “Louise” is one of my real names but it isn’t the one I usually use in my day-to-day life. (That’ll confuse you if you ever meet me. LOL) The thoughts, events, and opinions described are real but some of the names may be changed to protect the ignorant – if you know me in real life and come across this blog by accident, you’ll probably recognize me (and perhaps yourselves) from these posts, but I don’t share the site address with very many friends or any family members specifically so that I don’t have to censor myself.
Hello, I found your blog by accident, and I was totally stunned by the similarity in life stage to myself.
I turned 42 in February and forty and forty one were not that big an issue; but for some reason forty two – HURTS. Having recently come out of my second marriage, still overweight and on the brink of bankruptcy – I can empathise with your situation.
Perhaps I haven’t read all the blog entries correctly or fully, but there is something about your writing style which as cliched as it sounds “speaks to me”.
I’ll be honest, I am not entirely clear why I am commenting other than perhaps to say that – you are not the only one who has put her life on hold until a miracle happens. I am the same, I don’t go out unless it is work, I am selling off my things to make it easier for me to move elsewhere and to pay rent while there isn’t that much work: I am contractor so I don’t make any enduring friendships, and the guys on the courses I train are certainly never interested in me as a woman.
Funny, it seems that as soon as a woman hits forty, she becomes invisible – someone did warn me about that and my ex dragged out the separation until I was after forty, and I don’t want to become one of those mutton dressed as lamb women who appears on gocougar who has the classic “I’ve dropped my contact lens” pose. That site is initially hilarious but very quickly becomes depressing – because you see so many older women trying to look in their twenties and the young men seem barely out of nappies.
Look Louise, if you fancy an email conversation from time to time – I will answer, and I will bookmark your blog.
Keep writing and take care!
Glad you stopped by, Katya. We do seem to be at the same stage, don’t we. I’m so sorry for that, for both of us.
Hi Louise,
I like your blog. Nice to hear I’m not the only woman going through stuff.
I’m turning 50 next week, and it’s terrifying!
Keep writing,
B
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Hope all is well.